‘Ain’t life full of tempting mirages? You sense an opportunity; make some sacrifices for grabbing it and finally when you come near to it, you realize that it is a mirage after all. There has been no opportunity at all. It is just the possibility of an opportunity. Most people confuse an opportunity with the possibility of one. Both are not the same.’
So many people I know have, of late, been on the lov-ee side of one sided feeling…
Its so tragic…
She: I need to tell you something… but…
He: Oh… come on… tell me…
She hesitates
He: it is just me after all… go ahead… tell me…
She: well… its like this… *suddenly stops* but whatever I say won’t spoil our friendship, no? it shouldn’t…
He: no, no… don’t worry… Now, tell me... What is it?
She: well... I think I am in love…
He: Wow!!! Fantastic… Who’s the lucky guy? Why didn’t you tell me, earlier, huh?
She: because *with a sad yet hopeful smile* …
He: because…? c’mon... Do I have to pull the words out of your mouth? Who is this guy, I need to congratulate?
She: Its… its someone you know…
He: What??? Soemone, I know? Reeeeeeaaaalllly!!! Who?
She: its… Its.. YOU!!!
*with a silly smile*
He: !!!! *shocked speechless*
She: *suddenly worried* What?? Come on… give me a reaction, da…
He: Oh! I don’t know what to say…
She: Oh. Ok. I understand…
He: No... No… see… Its not like that… I’m just not ready for a relationship right now… I.. uhm… besides… don’t you think we should be friends for some more time? Get to know each other…
She: ya… Ya… definitely… I knew you’d say this… *manages to pull off false laugh in spite of choked throat*
He: It’s... just that I don’t feel anything… there’s no spark… yet… but there might be in the future… please understand…
She: ok ok… hey… I need to go now… *leaves to cry her heart out*
A tragedy.
For the lov-ee – he/she loses a good friend… they just can’t be the same anymore… he/she feels uncomfortable abt the lov-er
For the lov-er – his/her hopes dashed… prob will get drunk and try to come to terms with not only the loss of hope but also a good friend…
For the lov-er’s friends – faced with the daunting task of helping the lov-er out of the depressing state of mind he/she must be in… of accompanying the lov-er to all possible pubs and taking care of the lov-er when totally drunk… being woken up in the middle of the night to listen to the cribs and sobs of the lov-er…
I know its not possible to ban it or make one sided love impossible… I know it’s a part of life and love… but still… I wonder… what good does it do?
Ps- I am not a ‘lov-ee’ or a ‘lov-er’… just found myself thinking abt this… so wrote abt it…
17 comments:
yeah anna..u want me to believe tat all this chumma struck u..right.watever..it was a good one but nothing of such sort can happen..how can u force love into someone,for that matter any emotion...majorly impossible.
anyways..have fun blogging
so true anna
Ain’t life full of tempting mirages? well, not really ;-), apprently i have been surrounded by quite a few couples who have indeed clicked after being said so at the first instance (dont ask me though!! :-().
here's a weird story proly unrelated ..
guy, goes to his sweetheart (gal X)and proposes her, gal X uses the most successfull line from the book (how-to-lose-a-lover-in-10-seconds !!), "I never saw you that way, blah blah .. !!" Guy goes crazy, goes nuts, and bugger takes quite a number of pills (i think he took just so much as to survive, maybe he calculated ;-))and pass out, ends up in hospital. Gal's friend gal Y, shows sympathy on the the guy, guy ends up proposing gal Y, dont ask me abut his sudden love, the second day in hospital meanwhile the gal X is now in sympathy love with the guy !! total MESS !!
ok... if you think this has got anything to do with my visit to V's house... you just maybe right.. i was doing a lot of thinking yesterday...
and i know u can't force love... thats exactly why its hopeless...
that comment was @kavya...
@MM
glad to see you're back on the scene..
:-)
and that is one weird story...
:-) but kinda hits you, doesnt it?
yeah !! one sided love wont even exist if there is way to figure out if the other person already has the same "sub-set" of feelings for you as well. I guess thatz the reason why guys (i donno abut gals, proly u can fill in) be real nice to their propective gf's buddies to get inside info ;-)
anna,, you cant restrict emotions and yo know that for a fact yourself,,
MM,,, i dont even want to imagibe what kinda state gal X would have been in...
@kavya you seem to be blog hopping these days
It should be banned! But it cant be so sigh.........very melancholy post...but nice!
Cheers!
Megha
The girl in the picture looks so grief-stricken... and the post is equally distressing. :(
Yeah, unrequited love is excruciatingly painful.
Anna, I want you to get out of this state of mind. NOW!!
ok, so X goes and tells Y that she is in love with him. X says he never looked at her that way/blah blah blah!!!
reasons...
-Y never really liked X a lot
-Y loves Z!!
-Y feels more comfortable with X as a friend!!!
see u can give an endless list of reasons!
i have personally gone through something like in the post. i being the X though! i took some time to get out of it but you see if thats how life treats you, i decided i'd rather learn to live that way than complain as long as i live!!
very well said...
..but then thats life....
as one of my friends said "arrey, dont worry yaar, if you do not met the wrong person, you will never recognize the correct one for you when they come along. If she said no, then take it in your stride and believe that she was not the right person for you"...
so damn true.. losing the friendship is the worst part..
"I have always seen you as a good friend and nothing else"..
thats what they all say..:))
by the way, great post..
@sush- i know that...but still wondering why it has to be this way.. so much of misery could be spared...
@meg- thanks... i am melancholy most of the time.. :-) just have sudden spurts of cheerfullness...
@vincent- the girl was meant to be grief stricken.. and the post is meant to be distressing... and i am out of that state of mind... :-)*blushes furiously* thank you for the concern... *shyly smiles*
@freaky chakra- i am a poor thing.. :-) but not because my love was rejected or anything.. and thanks for the hug...
@aytida-good for you.. but personally i think a bit of complaining..esp if its on my personal space..helps sometimes...
@losing in friendship is def the worst.. because after that they jus wont be the same again.. and thanks.. :-)
tell me bout it...and it feels horrible. esp if you're gotta face the person over and over again and u HAVE to pretend like all's well.
oh anna remind me to tell u bout the loser dude i once oiked and what he did when he found out i liked him. one of the not-so-happy times of my life.
@nina- i know i was bad.. but not that bad!!!
i think its poor ole M who has had to suffer... :-) much more than you, trust me.. so many midnight phone calls... and cribbing and crying... shit.. it was BAD!!!
@divya- will def remind you.. am totally curious to know... :-)
An old guy here : One sided love is sure tragedy, but what would you do to those two sided real loves which are prevented by useless concepts like the society, responsibility, ethics and the like?
God o God.. I love this post..!
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